Posted May 9, 2013 by rhita in Article

How to develop your conversation skills effectively?

Team at work
Team at work

Without effective communication skills you cannot attain success sin life, no matter what academic stream you hail from. It helps you in every stage of your career, starting from interviews and group discussion to workplaces. In many instances men and women having excellent scores all through their schools, colleges and universities have faltered at workplaces because of poor conversation capabilities. Even if you possess nice writing skills, it is important to have verbal communication skills at par and tweak it to suit professional requirements. For many people, the fear of using wrong expression or making grammatical mistakes is what holds them back from conversing with vigor. However, with practice and constancy you can overcome any issues related with verbal communication at workplace.

People, who have deficiency in verbal communication, resort to other methods to fulfill that gap. They usually resort to other methods of communicate to others including mail, letters, mobile messaging or messengers. While these may fulfill your communication needs to an extent, you have to remember that at times nothing works better than spoken communication. Avoiding the issue does not resolve the problem. You will have to overcome your anxiety and fear about deficit in spoken communication. You can resort to motivational books to get some advice and help in this regard. Below listed are some effective tips that you can use to overcome your shortcomings at conversation.

  • The first step at overcoming conversational deficit is asking questions. When you think you do not have it in you to begin a conversation, it is easier to ask the other person something you want to know about. This will give you a chance to listen and know his or her thoughts and you can frame your answer in the meantime. This will make the other person think u are interested in the topic as well.
  • To make an engaging conversation, show some interest in the person. Every human being likes to be noticed and feel good about it. If you show interest in what your co worker or seniors say, they will think positively about you. For the same reason, you should listen more than say things at workplace. This will help you learn a lot about others and develop methods to deal with them individually.
  • It is important that you maintain a positive outlook in your conversation. Even if you feel the other person is not right or saying something you do not agree with, do not oppose outright. It can make him or her feel enraged or insulted or both. There are diplomatic and less rude ways of letting the other person know that you do not accept or agree with some of his or her views. Refrain from using religious, political and racial issues in such conversations.
  • It is also important to maintain some etiquette even when you are asking an inform question at workplace. It may not be directly related to work or assignments. However, you need to maintain a minimum professional approach.
  • It is very important that you carry yourself well at workplace to make your conversation impactful. If you are not in right attire, neat and well groomed that can leave an effect on your sub conscious mind and you may show traces of nervousness while speaking. Remember, at workplace your body language speaks a lot more than the words you use. Be at your presentable best, walk straight and stare straight at the eyes of the person you speak. These will add a dimension to your verbal communication for sure.
  • It is always important to be polite at workplace and evade bragging whenever possible. Your acts should speak of your skills and capability than the words you speak at the office. When you are asked about something offer help generously without appearing haughty. That way you can ensure your deeds of help are accepted by all graciously.
  • Sometimes, it may so happen at the office that you find fault with certain things done by a senior colleague. While you can let your view be known to him or her, it would be better not to contradict directly. Opposing a senior colleague openly is not going to get you anything even when he is wrong. You can meet him later when the stress is less and explain your viewpoint. Chances are there, he will accept the facts as they are. However, when you say the same words at a different time in a confrontational manner, the impact can be different.
  • To lighten up stressful situations and conversation at workplace, you can use a bit of humor sometimes. This can make your colleagues feel good and relive the mood for some time. However, you have to maintain decency even when you use humor in your conversation at workplace.